What to Say When Scattering Ashes

Scattering the ashes of a loved one is a deeply personal and emotional moment. It's an opportunity to say a final goodbye, reflect on cherished memories, and celebrate a life well-lived. However, finding the right words to say during such a poignant occasion can be challenging. At Black Country Funeral Services, we understand the significance of this moment and are here to help you with some thoughtful ideas on what to say when scattering ashes.

Personal Reflections and Memories

One of the most meaningful things you can do when scattering ashes is to share personal reflections and memories of your loved one. Speak from the heart about what they meant to you, the impact they had on your life, and the moments you will always treasure. You might say something like:

• "You were my rock, my confidant, and my best friend. I'll carry your love and wisdom with me every day."
• "We shared so many wonderful memories together, from [mention a specific memory] to [another memory]. I'll miss you more than words can express, but I'll cherish these memories forever."

Reading a Poem or Quote

If you're struggling to find the right words, reading a poem or meaningful quote can provide comfort and resonance. There are many beautiful poems and quotes that capture the emotions of loss and remembrance. Consider these examples:

• "Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there; I do not sleep." – Mary Elizabeth Frye
• "To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die." – Thomas Campbell
• "And when the stream that overflows has passed, a consciousness remains upon the silent shore of memory; images and precious thoughts that shall not be and cannot be destroyed." – William Wordsworth

Expressing Gratitude

Scattering ashes is also a moment to express gratitude for your loved one’s life and the time you had together. Gratitude can bring a sense of peace and closure during this difficult time. You might say:

• "Thank you for all the love and support you gave me. I’m so grateful for every moment we shared, and I will honour your memory by living my life to the fullest."
• "I'm thankful for your guidance, your kindness, and your unwavering love. You made the world a better place just by being in it."

Offering a Prayer or Blessing

For those who find comfort in spirituality or religion, offering a prayer or blessing can be a powerful way to honour your loved one’s memory. Here are some examples:

• "Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May their soul, and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen."
• "The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace." – Numbers 6:24-26
• "May you be at peace, and may your journey be filled with light and love."